Declutter to Prayers: Friendships

I have several people who call me friend, and I the same. I, however, don’t believe they all care for me as I do for them.

I desire for one or both of the following:

Surround me with like-minded friends who embody friendship as state in the Bible, desire to enjoy activities in our community, and out, want to try new things, be helpful to me, and are compassionate.

OR…

Give me the spirit to deal with those folks not like above.

AND…

Remove those not in accordance with true friendship.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen.

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Declutter to Prayers: (Husband) Spouse

Lord, You certainly have been amazing to me and I am sincerely gracious. I have in my life much of what I need. I am missing my husband in every way imaginable.

My desire is to have a mate that understands, appreciates, and supports me. I need a mate who is strong, energetic, family-focused, God-centered, loving, affectionate, has a good sense of humor, open to receiving love, desires to have more children, enjoys giving to the community, and being a man like You.

In Jesus’ Name I pray,

Amen.

Declutter to Prayers: Family

Please

  • Connect
  • Unite
  • Reward
  • Acknowledge
  • Strengthen
  • Revive
  • Increase
  • Cover
  • Heal

my family!!!

Allow us to be beacons in our communities. Bless what we say, do, and think. Create an atmosphere of peace and joy as we gather with and depart from one another.

Keep my mommie, daddy, stepfather, son, sisters, brothers, nephews, niece, cousins, aunts, and uncles (INSERT YOUR FAMILY ROLES.) connected.

Remove from us ALL illness, sadness, grief, contempt, and disorder from our personal and familial interactions.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen.

Declutter to Prayers: Finances

Help me be a better steward Lord!

Enlarge my territory like only You can. Send Your financial overflow…give me an exceeding amount of financial blessings along with a humble heart and mind that will use the money correctly for Your good, and my joy.

I pray that finances will meet my needs and wants according to Your riches and will.

increase…INcrease…INCREASE!

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen.

Declutter to Prayers: Relationship with God

Allow me to draw closer to You so I can grow and bless others even as I am being blessed. Teach me Your ways, grant me biblical knowledge to be able to quote scripture.

Remind me You’re here, close, and available to me. Remind me to be open and available to You. Help me increase my Bible study and prayer time.

I want to be closer to You so I can better serve You, be prepared, and be positioned for blessings.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen.

Declutter to Prayers: Career

Lord, please give me a dance, arts, youth-related career (INSERT YOUR CAREER OF CHOICE); a career that will utilize all of my skills and talents…where all that I bring to the table is valued and recognized.

I desire to be in a career where people respect and honor one another and work hard towards a common goal.

Lord, please increase my income and improve my benefits (cost and options). Please also upgrade my schedule to allot for flexibility in my schedule.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen.

Declutter to Prayers: Covering-Abiding

Lord, please cover me and my family from all dangers of the enemy’s doing. Whether it is physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual, I am seeking Your covering so we can continue our journey and walk to doing Your will on our jobs, in our church, family, and communities.

Please Lord abide in our every activity of thought, word, and deed. Open my heart, ears, and spirit to You so I can “hear” You and follow Your direction. My goal is to be one with You regularly. I want to feel and hear from You because I want to be “in order”. Order positions me for knowledge and blessings.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen.

Declutter to Prayers: Intro

This week I had a rough day. But I forced myself to get up and do some decluttering around my home. There really is not much. But I figured every little bit counts, and opens space for more blessings and positive energy.

After putting away my Christmas tree (Yes. I know is April.) and decorations I went to my bookshelf. I came across a notebook full of meeting notes from a fantastic job I held for 3 years here in Columbus, Ohio. As I leafed through it I found several prayers I had written for a prayer fast that I was doing. After reading them I am more amazed at God’s grace and favor. So, I debated about sharing them.

I have a way of keeping to myself; thoughts, beliefs, opinions, hopes, aspirations, joys, lows…my life I guess. I don’t really mean to. But I learned at an early age that many people don’t want to hear what I have to say. I believe that our society discredits young people, assuming that a younger age equates to less knowledge. So, I have held things back over the years.

But I have decided to go’on ahead and be all of me out loud…on purpose! So, I am going to share these prayers with the world. The awesome thing is that you all can use them too. You’ll see in some of them how they are fitting even today.

Let the Boy Jump

One afternoon, on an unlikely occasion, my son who was between 3 and 4 and I went shopping with our godmother. When out of nowhere he began jumping. He wasn’t jumping on things, from things, or anything like that. He was just jumping.

This was a new behavior for him. Since we were with the “god mom” there were only a few things I could do to try and stop him from jumping without getting the same in return. So I held his hand a little tighter, and pulled it gently in a downward direction (encouraging him to keep his feet still and “down”…on the ground). It was not working. He just kept jumping despite my physical suggestions and redirections.

Our godmother looked over at one point, turned her eyes back to what she was doing, and calmly said “That’s just what boys do.” I tried to play if off like I had no idea what she was referring to. She didn’t bat an eye or call me out any further. She ended it all simply by saying “Let the boy jump.” and carried on.

I let lose my grip and downward tug, and let him jump (while holding my hand of course) as we continued our shopping…and out the store to the car. This single moment was surely an important defying moment in my parenting.

I was concerned about several things in that moment: safety, what others would think of us, my ability to control my son when I felt necessary. The latter of these concerned me the most. What if he’s engaging in inappropriate behavior, and I was not able to gain control of my son in an instant? What kind of mother does that make me? Oh, no! My son is going to be rebellious and unruly!

Yes! I thought all of that in that moment. My heart was racing and was about to panic, all over some simple jumping; something that was causing no harm, making him smile, and keeping him engaged apparently since he wasn’t running around the store under clothing racks like I use to.

Often times we as parent (adults) inhibit behaviors that are innate to our children that are surely harmless all because we are worried/anxious about things that have little to nothing to do with them. That moment of anxiety was mostly about me. From that moment I committed to allowing my child to be a him at every stage.

I realize quickly that it was not my place to prevent him from doing what felt natural or fun. My job is to monitor all of his behaviors, and be sure that he knows when any behavior is not appropriate. With the jumping he knew not to jump through the church, school halls, onto or from things. And of for some reason he wanted to jump in public he had to hold my hand or stay very close to me.

Fast forward to 14.75years of age. Teen boys can be very odd: poking, teasing, pulling pranks, being obnoxious on purpose, extreme sarcasm, etc. It drives me crazy some days. I recently had to tell him that it’s not the behavior it’s when he chooses to do it. I encouraged him to not be a pest or a jerk (okay asshole…I told him not to be an asshole). He fully got what I was saying.

I don’t feel like I’m a better parent than others, or that I’m oh, so seasoned that a parent should listen to my advice, because I make mistakes (like the asshole thing…my mom is going to thump me. Sorry.). But if you want your child to have an enjoyable childhood “Let the boy jump.” I promise with the proper guidance it won’t hurt a thing. They deserve to be children. Give them guidelines and boundaries and both parties will survive.

There’s nothing that hurts my soul worse than seeing children with so many restrictions that they cannot enjoy their childhood. I can’t speculate about the behaviors that can arise from that later in life. But I’m certain there’s something to be said for those who weren’t allowed to “jump”.

So today, start to “Let the boy jump”. You may want to “jump” with them, and learn there’s a lot more to enjoy in this life.

 

Get Sidetracked

3 times I tried to attend my favorite yoga class: Sekoia at  Yoga On High. If you’ve never experienced it you should. When you do you’ll soon experience what I feel is the most comprehensive yoga practice. The class infuses intention, mudra, pranayama, and aromatherapy into asana practice (what most know as a traditional yoga practice). As a dancer I need all of my senses engage to have the best learning, spiritual, and sharing moments. Sekoia does this seamlessly for me in the most loving environment.

The first time I missed class i was pissed- As I made my way to class from a volunteer opportunity I sidetracked. I realized later I chose to be sidetracked. So i really should not be upset.

The second time was 2 weeks later. I registered, put it in my calendar, told my BF and son so there would be reason for wither to looking for me during that time. So when plans arose to take my son to meet his uncle from some family time away during my class I almost fainted. Thankfully we were able to arrange a time that accommodated my yoga schedule.

Well we pack up the car a smidge late and…the car won’t start. Like really? Really? Just Why?! How is this possible? Something told me to start my car when my BF was there. Oh, but Olivia doesn’t listen to herself, so of course she didn’t do that. That’s my new year’s resolution- listen to yourself.

I was disappointed. But not nearly as much as last time. I gave up a bit in my brain. But as I reviewed the week’s classes at YOHI, what did I discover but a Sekoia class on my last night off. That’s perfect, I thought! Obviously this is the class that I need to be in after 2 tries. So I register and post a jovial BUT VERY sincere prayer and notice to the universe to not interrupt my moment.

I got nervous my moment would be interrupted because my son was late for pick-up. But we made it home in time to organize his planner for the week, and for me to change, grab water, and stop by the laundromat. Too bad I left my keys in my BF’s car! Noooooo!no

I quickly set into blaming myself. Why? I told myself to put my keys in my purse but chose to do otherwise. (As you can see my new year’s resolution follow through stinks!) I started to sulk and even quicker flashed back to my meeting with Jasmine Grace in November. I distinctly heard her say “Everything happens for a reason.” https://youtu.be/B-W7HyiAu_M So I lifted my head and walked back in the house.

As I climbed the stairs my son says “Hey mom. I need your help.”, like I had never left. I walked into the bathroom and told him to meet me in my room. That he did, and we had a great study session over Acts 1-8 despite his/our dog acting a nut. He was running all over the house like there was an intruder; growling, barking like a banchee! I got unnerved really quick. But he trips when a cat walks past the door.

Then he sounded like he was dragging brown paper bag in my room. But where was he? Aw hell no! (I yelled really loud) That’s not William! That’s the creature in my ceiling that’s been trying to join us for breakfast for 2 weeks. He/She/It was trying to escape its world into mine..through the 3″ hole that’s been in my ceiling for 2 months. It was scratching so tough plaster was falling from the hole.

We quickly moved to action. I yelled some more and made a lot of noise so hopefully startle him away. I found some tape my step-dad left last winter, then cut up a cardboard box and a “green bag”, and we covered the hole pretty well.

As the boy and I stood admiring our work everything came full circle. Not that I have to know “why” all of the time, but I understood why and saw how me missing my class all worked out for our good.

  1. I got to spend time with my boy.
  2. I was able to help him study.
  3. We prevented the creature from entering our home.

If I went to yoga we would have had greater issues on our hands besides my hurt feelings.

LESSON: 

Often times in life we are sidetracked by unexpected events. They can bring forth many feelings and concerns. When we are well intended and living on purpose we are quicker to accept that everything happens for a reason, and for our good. We have to discover ways to quickly let go of what we cannot control: car accident, failed experiment, burnt dinner, lost keys, tardy to school, cancelled plans and be fully present in the moment. They’re are far more important than those past, we can’t control, or seemingly missed.

Make a commitment to trust God, to trust the universe, and trust yourself. Together you’ll find the good in all things.

Om ShantiNamaste